Pushing the boundaries

This is really normal for our kids throughout all their developmental stages, but when adolescent hits it feels particularly hard. But if your kids are pushing the boundaries at this new developmental stage, use this as an opportunity to re-set the boundaries, alongside your kids, because frankly they may need dusting off and some re-thinking.

Involvement from kids, and us listening to them and adjusting in some areas, is more likely to support them to stick with the rules and work in line with your whānau values. 


Talk about things - all the things!
Ask questions without interrogating
Don't sweat small stuff
And remember...

Tech taking over the world (well, in your family!)

Not easy hey? It feels like they get access to a phone and laptop for safety and learning, and next minute, it's all they want to do! What's more, they know all the downfalls of too much screen and device time too, so we can't 'teach' them anything and so we resort to nagging, they get annoyed or hide their online usage and GAH!

But it's not all impossible, we can support our kids to spend less time on their screens and it doesn't have to be a battle... all of the time!

Tech has some positives too
Reset the boundaries
If sleep is being impacted
Encourage other things they enjoy

Attitude, with a capital "A"!

This covers the behaviour that makes us feel insignificant -  rudeness, eye-rolling, backchat and dismissiveness But (and we know you'll hate reading that 'but') 'attitude' does come as part of the stage here and part of their brain's development. 

So deep breaths whānau - you got this!

Check in
Ignore it
Talk to them
Laugh about it