Testing Boundaries

Testing boundaries is really normal. It's our job to set the boundaries, and our kids' job to test that they're there and remain in place.

Give praise
Keep praising
Be understanding

Running Off

Normally kids will run off because they have legs. But they’ll run off more depending on our initial reactions to them running off – if there was a surprise, fear or lots of attention (even anger,) it’s likely to happen again.

Keep them engaged
Keep practising

Hurting animals and others

A tricky one for sure, but normal.

Being mean to pets often stems from our first experiences of this – we hurt the cat, the cat scratches, we get loads of care from our parent and the cat gets thrown outside (even though the cat scratch is a natural consequence).

Hurting others will likely be caused by jealousy, frustration or embarrassment, all of which pre-schoolers don’t really have the capacity to be able to say, let alone explain! We say:

Talk about it
Take the time
Give attention
It's time to calm down
Don't lecture

Limpeting on

We kind of get this – for young kids, the world must be so huge from their perspective, there’s hardly a chair they don’t have to clamber onto front-ways. So new situations and people won’t always be exciting, and even the familiar will sometimes be daunting.

If they limpet on to our legs, or won't let us go, this is really normal, but it's our job to spend some time supporting them to feel more comfortable in new places, and with new people and sometimes too with places they know and people they love!

Be there

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